Why Do People Lie and Cheat?
There are various reasons people lie and cheat in their relationships. While these reasons do not justify the behavior, it may be helpful...
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AUTHENTIC
SEXUALITY
Why is It Hard to Be Sexually Authentic?
Both men and women struggle with sexual compulsivity and infidelity. The causes of sex addiction and infidelity are multifaceted and can vary from person to person. Some potential contributing factors include:
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Psychological factors: Underlying psychological issues, such as low self-esteem, unresolved trauma, or relationship difficulties, can contribute to addictive behaviors and infidelity.
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Biological factors: Some research suggests that certain individuals may have a predisposition to addictive behaviors due to genetic or neurological factors. However, more research is needed in this area.
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Social and cultural factors: Societal factors, cultural norms, and peer influence can impact attitudes towards sex, relationships, and fidelity. Societal pressures, unrealistic expectations, or exposure to infidelity may contribute to these struggles.
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Relationship dynamics: Relationship dissatisfaction, lack of intimacy, poor communication, or unresolved conflicts can increase the likelihood of infidelity or sexual dissatisfaction, leading some individuals to seek fulfillment elsewhere.
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Personal choices and values: Ultimately, individuals make personal choices regarding their behaviors. Factors such as personal values, beliefs, and moral frameworks can play a role in decisions related to fidelity and sexual behaviors.
Remember, sexuality is complex and can evolve over time. It is crucial to avoid stigmatizing or generalizing about people based on their sexual behaviors or preferences. Understanding the complexity of these issues requires considering multiple factors and recognizing the diversity of experiences and motivations among individuals. If someone is struggling with addiction, infidelity, or other challenges, seeking professional help from therapists, counselors, or support groups specializing in these areas can be beneficial. It's okay to take your time to understand and explore your feelings. We can help you
How Therapy Can Help
I can help both men and women with these issues, though most of my clients who struggle with this are men, perhaps because I’m male. Therefore, I have experience to be able to help men to:
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Feel normal and accept your sexuality, as well as your struggles.
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Feel your underlying emotions in a safe and supportive place.
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Clarify what your emotional needs are, especially when it comes to sexuality.
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Assertively communicate your psychological needs underlying sexual desires.
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Navigate how to have a greater authenticity and alignment between your desires and their core values.
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Destigmatize and not react in shame when talking about gender issues.
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See women more in terms of relationship instead of mere sex objects.
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See women as individuals rather than representatives of an entire gender (deconstruct gender and sexism).
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See women as unique people to know rather than trophies or status symbols.
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Identify your own worth that is not dependent on gender prescriptions.
While outcomes are completely dependent on the work you put into therapy, my hope is that therapy will produce these results:
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Greater ability to identify underlying emotional needs.
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Having a strategy to align their desires and values.
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Having accountability to help them delay their sexual gratification.
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Less frequent reliance on porn or forms of sexual gratification for happiness.
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Score better on sexism inventories.
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Score in a more flexible range on gender role comfort scale.
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Redefining for themselves what it means to be a man.
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Writing a vow for their romantic partner that expresses desire for equality.
In addition to therapy, I can offer sexuality quizzes and assessments.
About Dr. Luttrell
Dr. Luttrell can help you reconnect and realign with your truth authentic self by restoring emotional intimacy with yourself, partner, family, business, or spiritual relationships. He believes that understanding emotions are important to overcome obstacles of shame, fear, or shame-based cycles of addiction. His focus areas tend to be on romantic relationships, sexuality, the impact of hurtful habits, and spirituality.
Testimonial
"Dr. Luttrell is very professional. He strives to obtain the most helpful resources for clients and keep up to date on relevant approaches to aid clients in their therapy journey. He is friendly and approachable and highly empathic."
- Vanessa Q. (former colleague)
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